these are all from forums. Those that are posted here means i agree to them.
- A good friend is a person who will stand by you no matter what. They will help you and not make you do anything you don't want to do. They will understand your decisions, even if they don't agree, and try to help with life's problems. Friends are there to help with life, not to make life harder.
- A friend should be considerate of your feelings, friends are equals, no one should be superior. A friend should be someone you can trust and you can be yourself with them, vice versa, and no matter where you are , you can have fun together.
- A good friend is a person who will stand by you no matter what. They will help you and not make you do anything you don't want to do. They will understand your decisions, even if they don't agree, and try to help with life's problems. Friends are there to help with life, not to make life harder.(haha i soo agree with this one thus the double post)
there is no such term as best friend forever or whatnots for me. i talked about this to a close friend of mine, i told her, 'i think having bestfriends just destroys any other friendships that you have.
true?'. She says, 'it depends'.
Well i guess its true, it depends on the situation.
like if you're in a group but you're more close to this one person. Its no good if the rest has to like adapt to it or something. They might feel left out. Even if you don't mean to do it, it happens. Trust me.They sure do cause conflicts and uneasiness among the whole group. Friends to me, can be classified as a close friend, distant friend and even casual friend.
Close to me has the same definition of a best friend, someone you share stuffs with, secrets with, whom you spend most of your time with, but not a special someone, not A person, its like a bunch of them. well maybe im just lucky i got a few..different people different situation i guess. But i dont want to choose a special One out of the rest. No more.
Then this friend of mine said
N says : Ash ? Ash is your bestfriend kan?
i said : He doesnt affect me in a way that others might get jealous or uneasy does he?
N says: nooo.
i said: In my opinion, whether im close to him or not, he doesnt affect me in my everyday decisions or anything, he just listens. Not harmful ( everyday decisions yes maybe, but he doesnt really have any direct effect to my other friends, causing them to be unhappy or something. so yea. he is not harmful to me or any of my friends.) My friendship with him doesnt affect anyone.
N says: yea yea true.
i said: Not like in a group. Cause if you do smth with this one person, you must think abt the rest too.
N says: yea yea. that one also i don't like
i said: like its always impt to inform the rest or smth to avoid misunderstandings
i dont ask permissions to go out with others frm him, i dont care who he goes out with, he dont care who i go out with..if we happen to tell each other abt it, he's cool abt it..i am cool abt it, we are cool abt it.No jealousy..No misunderstandings
Well to end it, i say im happier having this kind of friendship.
Knowing that person for a long time shouldnt be the only reason you are still friends.A friend should accept you for who you are, be understanding, be firm, be there for you when you need them and look out for you. Friends and friendship grow and learn together. i guess thats like the meaning of my friendship with Ashraf. I hope it is too with all the other friendships that i have. i shall just embrace them all. Cheers.
Love,
Faiza ♥
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